Many people say: 👉 "Not only did I like him, he made me feel at home. ” 👉 “I got hooked on how he looked after me. ” 👉 "With that person I felt rest, not just desire. ” And they often hear the same thing:
👉 “You mistook love with need. ”
👉 “You just wanted attention. ”
👉 "That wasn't love, it was dependence. ”
But Freud explained something finer.
A part of love life is based on very early experiences of sustenance.
That's why sometimes we don't choose just because of passion.
We also choose who makes us feel:
• protected
• calm down
• alimentados emocionalmente
• accompanied
• less lonely
It's not always weakness.
It is that love also touches very old needs connected to care and shelter.
The awkward idea is this:
👉 Sometimes you don't just fall in love with one person.
👉 You also fall in love with how it makes you feel about yourself, with your body, and with your sense of being held in the world.
But there's also something important.
Needing bra don't make love fake.
Just shows that love
is not a purely romantic or sexual experience.
Also is, often,
the search for a place
where at last
something in you
I can rest.
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