"THE NARCISSIST AND HIS OBSESSION WITH APPEARANCE:

The narcissist doesn't want to be happy. She wants to look happy. And there begins the tragedy of many women. Because while you seek love, connection, peace and sincerity... he was only concerned about keeping his character intact. The perfect picture. The perfect smile. The perfect relationship. The perfect life. Even though inside I was an empty, insecure and emotionally broken man. The narcissist lives obsessed with appearances because they know that if someone finds out who they really are... the mask falls off. This is why you need constant validation. That's why she flirts even if she has a partner. That's why he brag about what he doesn't feel. That's why she humbles in private and acts like a prince in public. He doesn't care how he makes you feel. He cares about how he stands before others. And many women end up stuck there... trying to heal a man who just learned to act. You get confused because you look attentive, polite and charming in front of people. But when the doors close... contempt, manipulation, cruel silence and indifference appear. And you start to wonder: “Am I exaggerating?” ” “Am I the problem?” ” "Will no one believe me?" ” That's the narcissist's most perverse game: destroy you emotionally while protecting his social image. Because the narcissist doesn't love. Manage people. He uses you to feed his ego. To feel admired. Desired. Necessary. Superior. And when he can't control you anymore... start destroying your self-esteem so you can be the one who thinks you're worthless. Many women are not in love with the real man... they're in love with the character he created in the beginning. From the attentive man who disappeared afterwards. From the detail man who only existed while he needed to win you over. From the "perfect" man who was never real. And it hurts to accept that. It hurts like hell. Because it means understanding that you didn't lose the love of your life... you lost a carefully crafted illusion. The narcissist lives on the physical, money, status, social media and external approval because inside there is a void that can never be filled. And the emptier it is... more needs to show up. That's why some people change partners quick. That's why they can't stand being alone. That's why they need to exhibit happiness constantly. Because silence confronts them with what they really are. A nice mask... with a deeply broken soul. 👉"Stop trying to get a narcissist to understand you emotionally. Most understand perfectly the damage it does. He just doesn't care as long as he continues to get emotional benefit, attention or control. And listen to this even though it's uncomfortable: 👉"Sometimes the narcissist didn't destroy your life... he only destroyed the fantasy you had about him. The real question is: Why did you keep loving someone who spent so long proving that he only loved himself? ---mendoza male