Time to bring back courtship

If you are married or committed to someone, honor your word or leave first, heal, but don't disrespect your spouse by pretending to be something you are not. ♥️🙏🏻🕊️🧚‍♀️🌈 My Heart Will Not be Found at the Buffet Table "When we find ourselves single in our 40's and beyond, we start observing the currents of single life, and it can create a sense of disillusionment, for me, it was a "what the fu*k" moment. Dating is not for me. It is a smorgasbord of everything bad for us, most of it artifical, like an all you can eat buffet of junk food that poisons our bodies and souls. We deserve so much better, quality, not quantity overwhelming our senses, wanting to taste everything because it all looks so good. Our heart and souls asking, what the fu*k are you doing here? Knowing we will not feel well after such an indulgence, not even knowing what ingredients went into creating them. We need to bring back old-fashioned courtships. Dating is so flipping insincere in today's world, most having multiple options on the stove, not giving full attention to anyone. And because so many people are lonely, they jump into bed, wanting to feel held, especially after leaving long term marriages or partnerships. For women, that usually means emotional attachment, and a man running in the opposite direction as soon as we start to show them how much they mean to us, how much we want more than this intermittent attention on their terms. Souls, hearts, and spirit guides rolling their eyes at yet another decision to be completely reckless with our heart, and theirs, even when you knew they were not the one, but rather the one available when you needed comfort. This toxic dynamic is creating narcissistic traits where beautiful hearts once lived. It breaks me to see the pain this is causing. We begin to question our intuition, when we should be trusting it more. I see more heartache among people my age, then back in my 20s, more games with social media (not exclusive to singles, sadly) and endless dating sites, making it appear like there are so many to choose from, when in reality, it is easy to create a persona behind a keyboard that doesn't even resemble a person's true self or intentions. It is like the single world is captivated by the buffet while some are repulsed by this gluttony. Some of us want a fine dining experience, where small portions and anticipation brings excitement, awakens the taste buds, requires patience, and space in between to process, refine and discern. Each course builds upon the previous one. A buffet can't compete with this experience, as you respect the pace, and wouldn't dream of rushing. This is more than a meal to fill your immediate hunger, it's an experience to be savored. You aren't demanding for every plate to be laid on a table at once, you take your time and truly savor every course on its own merit, you aren't jumping from plate to plate, never really finishing any of them. In the back of your mind, you wonder what delicious dessert awaits your senses, but respect the pace, knowing you will truly savor the sweetness it will bring, in its proper timing. In courtship, a foundation is built, one conversation at a time, with patience, and understanding that there aren't six others receiving the same as you are, because the intention and expectation of exclusivity during this discovery phase is made at the beginning. No guarantees, no engagement, no marriage, just too mature adults, saying I really like you, and I want to take the time to get to know you, and only you, as we figure out if this is something that feels right for both of us. Can we create a bond that will lead to deeper commitment and love that lasts? Or will we respectfully choose to end the courtship that hasn't been muddled with dessert being eaten before we even know if the full menu appeals to our heart and soul. And while this doesn't guarantee one heart will not feel more than another, it does bring honor, respect, intention and mindfulness into this beautiful unfolding. And it doesn't overwhelm or confuse the nervous system, or the heart. So maybe it's time for men and women to set the table, know our worth, and be bold with our expectations if someone is interested in getting to know us beyond friendship. We can create this with long distance as well. It will bring out creativity, soulfulness, and playfulness in a way modern dating is failing miserably. Just some thoughts from a woman trying to find her way in a world that feels so foreign and distant to her. It is time to heal this wound between the feminine and masculine, and we are here to do this, for us, for our lineage and for all." ♥️+♥️= ♥️♥️♥️ You and me, with Spirit creating a third and beautiful frequency of "us" energy. This LOVE lifts the entire cosmos... it is why we are here, now, at this time. Love Well, Always. dw The Fairie Journals